Videos

A Complete Listener

In this video, Eunice and Jennie explain what it means to be “a complete listener”.  They explain how listening to understand and being mindful of differences and similarities not only makes conversations more meaningful, but also makes us better people.

Thanks Eunice and Jennie!

 

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Here’s what Craig says in the video

Hi everybody. Hey it’s Craig Freshley here.

I just lead a workshop about inter-group dialogue, and Eunice here said that it really helps in conversations when someone is a complete listener.

I love that phrase and so I’m going to ask her and also Jennie to talk a little more about it. Let’s see what they have to say.

Okay, so Eunice, Jennie tell me what does it mean in your mind to be a complete listener?

“I think a tendency of people is to listen with the intent of responding as opposed to listening with the intent of understanding the perspective first, and then formulating some sort of response that will deepen the understanding, and then facilitate a conversation with their differences or similarities.” – Eunice

“I also think it’s about thinking about what assumptions you have going into the conversation. How your experiences have informed your own perception and then using that to think about how others also have their own experiences that are different from yours, and using that as a way to really authentically listen to what they have to say knowing that you have differences and similarities.” – Jennie

“And one more thing. Everybody has their own experiences through the lens catered to their experiences that they have, by listening you can see how somebody else sees it from a different level, from a different view and I think it’s important not only for the person in the conversation but also as a self-bettering assessment of being a person.” – Eunice

Awesome. Thanks Jennie. Thanks Eunice.

I hope this helps you, listeners, be a complete listener.

Thanks a lot everybody.

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Teacher Appreciation

Thank you Professor Eugene Mawhinney!

In honor of Teacher Appreciation Week, Craig explains what made his teachers great and encourages us to teach each other, by example.

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Here’s what Craig says in the video

Hi everybody! Hey it’s Craig Freshley here.

It’s teacher appreciation week and here in Maine our Commissioner of the Department of Education is encouraging people to make little videos thanking their teachers.

I would like to thank Professor Eugene Mawhinney who taught Constitutional Law at the University of Maine. Gene Mawhinney was a great teacher because, not only did he have command of constitutional law, he also held us to high standards. But he also engendered in us a love for law and for the Constitution.

Here’s inside the book by the way; pretty beat up, written all over. I loved this course. Duct tape on the outside.

Now many of us have had great teachers in the classroom; you might call it book learning. But a lot of us learn about good group decisions from other people in the group. Those are our teachers too; the elders, the veterans, the people who don’t just talk about how to do things but who do things in ways that work really well for the group. Follow those people. And if you are one of those people, continue to set a good example and be a good teacher.

I hope this helps you help your group make good decisions. Thanks for listening everybody.

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Bring you

Want to help your group? Work on yourself. Figure out who you are and what you stand for. Bring THAT to your group. When we bring false personas or fake aspirations we just mess things up and cause inefficiency. In this video Craig tells the story of Zushya, and the question that he fears God will ask him.

Thanks for holding the camera, Chris!

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Here’s what Craig says in the video

Hi everybody! Hey it’s Craig Freshley here. Today I’m in North Station, Boston.

You know that a lot of my tips are actually about individual attitudes and individual behaviors, because it’s individuals that add up to good group decisions.

Today, the story of Zushya, the Rabbi Master who was sad and worried on his deathbed.

His followers asked, “Why are you so worried?” and he said, “I have finally figured out the question that the Creator is going to ask me.”

“What’s the question?” they said.

“He is not going to ask me, ‘Zushya, why weren’t you a Moses who led your people into freedom?’ He’s not going to ask me ‘Zushya, why weren’t you a Joshua who led your people to the Promised Land?’ He’s going to ask me, ‘Why weren’t you Zushya?'”

The idea is that we have to be ourselves. That is the calling to greatness and if you really want to help your group, don’t bring the person that you think is going to get into heaven. Don’t bring the persona that you think your group members want. Just bring you.

I hope this helps you help your group make good decisions.

Thanks a lot everybody.

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