In principle, we don’t need to know the whole plan in order to take the next step. To avoid a stumble we don’t need to see the whole path illuminated, just the next few feet.
As if carrying a lantern through the dark, if I take just one step at a time more will be revealed. The light moves with me.
Practical Tip: Just because you can’t see how everything is going to work out, don’t let that stop you from taking the next step. If your group seems stuck with uncertainty, ask, “What do we need to know just to take the next step?” Let that be enough for now. Take a step. As an individual, let go of needing to know everything and trust that your lantern will see you through.
In principle, discipline is remembering what I want.
Step one of course is to figure out what I want. That’s hard all by itself. Yet without a clear definition of the goal, discipline is impossible. Chasing fleeting aspirations willy-nilly often results in a random undisciplined path that amounts to little progress.
Step two is to stay on the path, remember what I want, where I want to be. It is so easy to be distracted. Disciplined people have learned how to resist distraction.
Step three is do the work. And the work is surprisingly easy, even fun, when you truly believe in a well-defined goal and when you are free from distraction.
And it’s the same for groups. This is why it is so important for groups to define their goals and honor their processes that are designed to get them there.
Practical tip: Define what you want. Remember what you want. Do the work, joyfully, that will get you what you want.
When someone throws a brick at Craig he has choices about how to react; three choices actually.
In this short video Craig explains on the sidewalk of Maine Street, Brunswick.
This video has captions. To see them, click CC on the video screen.
Here’s what Craig says in the video
Hi everybody! Hey it’s Craig Freshley.
Somebody might throw a brick at me. You know what I’m talking about: an insult, a resentment, a bad mood, somebody criticizes me unfairly. When somebody throws a brick at me I have a couple choices.
One thing I can do is I can catch the brick and then I can, like, carry it around with me. And it can weigh me down. I can be thinking about, “Did I really deserve that? Why am I such a bad person that I got a brick thrown at me?”
Another choice I have is that I can catch the brick and I can throw it back. I can insult the person who insulted me.
I have a third choice. Watch this, somebody is going to throw a brick at me. I can let it go by. I have a choice to not catch that brick, to not carry it around with me and let it be a burden, to not throw it back. I can…..I can let it go by and I can think to myself, “That was interesting.” And I can go about my day.
I hope this helps you help your group make good decisions.
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