Tips

Answer the question

Plus-Delta

Consensus for endurance

Admit mistakes

If it fits in my head, it’s probably too small

Ask, don’t tell

Reverence

Putting people in boxes is not okay

You decide how

Head, heart, and hands

Multiple truths

If you don’t have a stake, get out of the way

Write on the walls

A way to say no

Coalition membership

Make others look good

My responsibility

Work with energy

Light hand on the tiller

Name

A way to talk

Hear, hear

Right to be wrong

Failure

Fertile soil helps creativity

Clarify, discuss, decide

Art

Separate inputs from outcomes

How to talk across our political divide

Detachment

Good information compels

Shared vision required

Do what you say

Decision method right-sized

Advice

Single-tasking

Best we could with what we had

Connections

Available

Brake in advance

Things undone

Trust takes over

In-front-of messaging

Reinterpretation

Committees

Consensus at the core

Loose in the harness

Closing comments

Different views

Strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, threats

Causes of conflict, and cures

Three times considered

Morality as agreed

Hot hand

Contain disagreement

High ground

Small goals

Orientation

How to move forward

Difference between launch and land

Heads up

Inauguration

Indifference

Recreation

Feedback please

Moral compass

Last minute decision making

Consensus doesn’t mean casual

Just enough

What’s next?

Self Evident

On behalf cautions

No one dominates

Opt out

Criticism private

Direct communication

Multi-vote

Facilitation

Lose now, win later

Stories

Credit the group

Stakeholders at the table

Revenge is never a reason

Earth community

Okay to change plans and rules

Know your lines

Enforcement

Let things die

Measure to manage

Hands off

Incrementally

At least two ways

Get a second

Free from past

Start with a question

Outside influence

Flat for planning, stacked for doing

Not all about money

Conflict resolution steps

Objectives, agenda, ground rules

My part

Agreements stand until changed

Determination

Mistakes

Leadership

Okay to change your mind

Take a break

Rules first

Our interests

Direction more important than pace

Freedom of speech

Not her fault, her type

Outside issues

My first thought is probably not my best

Make amends

Best solutions begin with self

Ground rules

At home and in families

Take a step

Discipline

Alternative solutions

Decide how to decide

Reflective pause

Positive feedback

What’s the problem?

Demonstrate listening

Assumptions lead to trouble

More wagging, less barking

Love

Structure sets you free

Carrots are better than sticks

Shared values

Plan, meet, write-up

Resentments have roots in expectations

Act as if

Interests rather than positions

No complaining without contribution

Talk or listen

Define the edges

Humility

Straw vote

Good in everyone

Change or accept

Speak your truth and let go

Kindness

Name leads

Written words clarify

Listen

Gratitude

Us over me

Lawn signs and bumper stickers

Agenda setting access

Changing the process is rarely the solution

Accountability

Understanding first

Adapt, migrate, or perish

E-mail

Leaders hold secrets

I don’t know

Rules and relationships

Foretell the sunny side

Leaders consider multiple interests

Science trumps intuition

I believe in us

Change to stay the same

Strategic quitting

Don’t just do something, sit there!

Shared expectations minimize conflicts

One-on-One